I am not a mom

May 6, 2016
3 min read

With the approach of Mother's day, I find that it can be a hard day for those of us that are childless in our late 20's, 30's and beyond.

There is an expectation in society for women to embrace the idea of raising children.

For some, it is not desired, for some it is medically pursued for years and years with no success, for others it is rather simple and happens with little to no planning.

AND THEN…there is another group that is out there, which I feel I am a part of ... the woman that has felt a need to do things in an order, follow tradition of my family and religion. Which is to raise a baby in a two parent environment, after marriage.

I have always believed in getting married and then having children. I believe in this concept because I really don't think I could do it on my own and unsure if I would want to. If there is anything I feel strongly about, it would be the fact that becoming a parent is a HUGE commitment, so I am unwilling to be "unsure" about it!

While there are moments that I am sad about this situation, I really truly believe that God is preparing me for something far beyond my wildest dreams. Something perfect, something magical, something unique.

In the mean time I have been so blessed to be an Aunt and a "Frauntie" [friend + Aunt] to so many littles over the years.

Thank you for sharing your kids with me. Thank you for making me their Aunt and Frauntie .

For those of you in a similar situation as I am in, I hope you enjoy my poem.

I'm not a mom but I've cried holding a baby I'm unable to comfort.

I'm not a mom but I've wept over the loss of an unborn child.

I'm not a mom but I've felt the frustration of trying to keep everything together while organizing a child's busy schedule with my own.

I'm not a mom but I've rushed to be at a soccer game on time so I don't miss a potential score in the first few minutes.

I'm not a mom but I've wiped blood from a knee, kissed the pain away and put on a princess band aid.

I'm not a mom but I've spent time making a delicious meal and watched it go untouched and replaced with a tube of yogurt.

I'm not a mom but I've laughed until I've cried at a child dancing or singing to entertain the smallest of audiences.

I'm not a mom but I've savored the feeling of a huge smile on a face and hug from a child when I've shown up to visit.

I'm not a mom but I've embraced the ability to be the favorite "Auntie" to my sibling's and friends' children.

I'm not a mom but I've been able to tell a child that I am proud of them for doing something hard or being kind.

I'm not a mom but I've learned you can love and be loved by children who are not your own and it will still bring joy to your life

Katie is a frequent guest blogger at AuthenticallyAmy. Read more from her here.

Disclaimer and Brag: Katie has been my friend since 7th Grade and is a well-known Frantie at the Jones house. She has covered for late night work meetings, visits to the emergency room, and brings fun gifts like Play-Doh and juice in fun bottles. She is very much loved.